Meeting people is a difficult task. It takes effort, time, planning, and energy. Ideally, you go about your daily life and run into like-minded people that you instantly click with. Sometimes you’ll be at the gym and happen to organically start a conversation that leads to more conversation, which leads to a friendship. But most people are so internally focused when they are at the gym, grocery store, or [insert your activity here] that conversation generally doesn’t just happen on its own. When I’m out grocery shopping or running errands, I can’t imagine that I look all that approachable. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to anyone (well maybe sometimes), I’m just focused on getting my task done so that I can flop on my couch and watch my favorite TV show
It’s nearly impossible to meet people in settings like that, but it’s not like you are expecting to meet your best friend while getting gas. If you are trying to meet new people, you’ll go to an event, party, bar, park, somewhere that you would normally go. Maybe it’s an organized event where you decide to RSVP ‘Yes’, and even though you don’t know anybody, you’re hoping to meet someone that you’ll click with. That’s great! People tend to expect to interact with people at those events, and people seem more approachable. After a little while your nerves begin to settle and you start to talk to the people around you on the volleyball court. Things aren’t so scary anymore, and that’s when you can really start to get to know people.
Getting yourself to go to those events can be hard to do, especially if you’re not the most outgoing person there is. It’s terrifying to show up to an event where there are a bunch of people you’ve never met before. Sure, they’re interested in the same activity you are, but if it’s a group that meets regularly, chances are cliques are already formed and all of a sudden you feel like an outcast. Now you’re there hoping that someone will come up to you to start a conversation. I’m not a person to start up conversations unless I’m familiar with the people around me. I’d like to think of myself as someone that’s really friendly once you get to know me, but it’s really hard for me to initiate conversation. It’s just not something I’ve ever been that comfortable with, even though I really like meeting new people. I just don’t know what to talk about with someone I just met. I typically ask the same few questions: Where are you from? What do you do? Do you play volleyball often? Would you rather have feet as hands, or hands as feet? And sure, sometimes it helps move the conversation forward, but it just doesn’t feel natural. It feels like we’re forcing it. There’s only so many things you can talk about when the only reason both of you is there is to play some volleyball. But, if you start to add in some other common factors, conversation tends to flow a lot easier.
One way I met a bunch of new people was through volleyball. I played with my close friends growing up all the time, but eventually we started going to college and spreading out, and eventually I stopped playing volleyball because most of my friends from college weren’t that interested in volleyball. After I graduated, one of my friends moved to a town I was close to and said he’s part of a league and could use another guy to play. Of course I was interested! I asked who else was on the team and he listed some people that I had never met; they were mostly people he met at college. When I got to the first game we were all introduced, and I noticed we were talking a little more naturally. Sure, I would ask them what they do, etc. but instead of leaving it at that, I could start to tie in with, “Oh, so that’s how you know my friend. I know him from…” And then all of a sudden stories are being told about my friend and I growing up, and about them in college. It just feels so much more natural and engaging.
Moral of the story is this: when trying to meet new friends, the more connections you have with them is better. Mutual friends are great for this because they can introduce you to a whole new group of people that are very likely to become your friends as well. So get out there and start meeting people. And if that happens to be through Galavant, that'll make us that much happier!
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The Galavant Team